Being a fat person on dating apps
Story from Relationships. When it comes to dating, I was something of a late bloomer. Around the time my friends started losing their virginities and acquiring partners, I alternated between feeling too ashamed of my fat body even to consider letting anyone else see it and presuming that no one would want to look at me naked in the first place.
Fast-forward to early university and the discovery of fat acceptance communities online, and I started dipping my toe into the metaphorical hook-up pool. Finding people who seemed totally at ease with the nuances of my fatness, on the other hand, might prove a little trickier.
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I encountered folks who seemed to avoid any contact with my stomach, as if my belly were the Loch Ness Monster arising from the ocean or from under my shirt to eat them whole. InI began making profiles on fat-specific dating websites and apps.What did I learn from someone calling me fat on a dating app? Well, I learned that you can’t be desirable to everyone, right? But you still deserve to be treated like a human being. When people make comments or jokes like this, you have to know that this person must be extremely unhappy with their life. Hold your head up high and keep moving forward! There are undoubtedly fat fetishists on all the plus-size dating apps I’ve tried but I wouldn’t define the whole of fat fetishism in such a limiting, vilifying imcmarketplace.coted Reading Time: 8 mins. It comes from all directions, not just online or through apps. The idea that a fat woman puts herself out there triggers a section of the population. They can’t handle the thought of an overweight woman having the confidence to date or to even admit that she’s a romantic, sexual being looking for a relationship.
That is, platforms specifically targeted at fat people and our 'admirers'. I knew the stereotypes and concerns surrounding these apps. Even within fat-positive circles, there sometimes runs a deep distrust of fat fetishism. Fat fetishists are often branded as individuals who want nothing more than to, well, fetishise a fat person usually nonconsensually.
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Many fat people have experienced dehumanisation in this context. I immediately started to question how other people see me.
I was so embarrassed and mortified! And even though this was over an app, it felt like someone had said this to my face in a room full of people.
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Also known as post-grad depression. When this guy made this comment, it really set me back for a minute. I try to be the best that I can be when it comes to my work. Why do people feel the need to make comments or jokes about other people? I contemplated reporting this guy and at the same time, I wanted to give him a pass.
That was what was so interesting about the situation because this was someone who made a rude joke and somehow I still felt apologetic. I thought that maybe I was overreacting by wanting to report him to the app.
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I even asked a few friends for their opinions. We all agreed it was rude. By Amy Horton. By Lyndsie Robinson. By Amanda Chatel.
By Kate Ferguson. By Averi Clements. By Sarah Burke. Search Search for:.If you're ok with being fat then fine I'm not here to judge you for your lifestyle choice. But if your lack of dating options is getting you down then maybe consider if it's time for a bit of a change. Also, I read through some of the comment here and man you sound like you have a lot of excuses for why you're overweight. There are undoubtedly fat fetishists on all the plus-size dating apps I’ve tried but I wouldn’t define the whole of fat fetishism in such a limiting, vilifying imcmarketplace.coted Reading Time: 8 mins. What did I learn from someone calling me fat on a dating app? Well, I learned that you can’t be desirable to everyone, right? But you still deserve to be treated like a human being. When people make comments or jokes like this, you have to know that this person must be extremely unhappy with their life. Hold your head up high and keep moving forward!
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